February is a month of romance...It is also the month to strengthen the FAMILY!!! Boy, could I use a few reminders. I failed again last night (Yikes) with harsh words and anger. Soooo here are good reminders to all of us.
Dating is a great time. Marriage is blissful. Honeymoon can be stressful. Years together can be down-right challenging.
What’s a couple to do? Learn to communicate. Here are some pointers.
1. Respond Positively
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”—Proverbs 15:1
This Bible verse is a great reminder. Even if you feel, “he’s picking a fight with me,” use the power of a positive response. Don’t get entangled in your spouse’s anger or attitude. Give a gentle answer … focus on the positive.
2. Don’t forget the power of TOUCH
If you know you’re about to talk about something that can bring tension, try the power of touch…and prayer!
Here is a radical, but great concept. Before you discuss that touchy subject, hold hands and pray for God’s guidance.
This is exactly what God would like you to do! Guess what ? It’s also a marriage builder.
3. Watch your timing
“A man finds joy in giving an apt reply…and how good is a timely word.” – Proverbs 15:23
Timing is everything. Don’t try to talk about important things when the big game is on. Don’t try to make big decisions in a rushed mode.
Don’t try to solve problems late at night (which is, unfortunately, the time most of us are finally talking!).
Make a date to discuss big issues. Be sure it’s a relaxed and focused time. Be sure both partners are on board, with no frustrating distractions.
4. Mirror Responses
When your spouse talks, really listen (sometimes we don’t!) THEN repeat back what you think you heard him say.
“So what I hear you're saying is….” Your spouse can correct you if you got it wrong. Keep this light and non-confrontational. This is a good thing!
5. Keep Praying !
The couple that prays together…stays together! Sounds corny, but it’s true!
Even if it feels awkward at first, try praying together every day. Keep it simple. Ask God for what you need. Thank Him for what He does for you. Ask Him to help you as a couple.
As a couple – walk with God. He will guide you through!